I wanted to share our experience with introducing Eli to our family and how Jude reacted to his sibling brother. I was so sure Jude would suffer that “only child” syndrome and how I would be as a mom to both boys, I was really struggling on how to approach these challenges.
I’m a bit ashamed to admit I was terrified the day my c-section day came. I cried a lot, afraid of how this little baby would change our family dynamic and Jude having had my full attention for the past 5 years. I was afraid I would be less of a mother to Jude and Eli because how would I possibly manage two equally.
I was so excited and happy and ready when we finally decided to get pregnant. I had prayed my whole pregnancy that I wouldn’t have these emotions that I had heard so many other moms-to-be go through. It terrified me so much that I was crying the day before Eli was going to be born.
Our sweet Jude was nothing but excited throughout my whole pregnancy right along with us. He would often talk to Eli and hug my belly, He would constantly ask us if he was coming yet. I knew he was ready to take on the big brother role and that brought me so much peace of mind.
As my C-Section date came and went, my worries faded completely and my heart was so full. I felt like the luckiest woman alive, I had these amazing healthy boys and this supportive helpful husband. Jude never once acted out in jealousy, I was amazed how it just happened so naturally, It all fell into place and it felt right.
It just makes me smile when I see Jude so genuinely happy to see his brother in the morning when he wakes up or after school. I’m so proud of him and how he has just taken his role as a big brother and done his best with it.
Jude has been my biggest teacher in parenting and any parents out there struggling with this my tips to you are:
- Have open communication with your spouse/kids and family
- Trust yourself
- Trust your child/children
- Pray, Pray, Pray
I hope a glimpse into my journey with this helps ease any fears or anxieties of yours!